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Twenty years ago the accumulation of skills, knowledge and experience (‘horizontal development’) was sufficient for business success. Today, it’s not. 4D Leadership – Competitive Advantage Through Vertical Leadership Development, offers a new approach of ‘vertical development’.

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How I came to realise the importance of being over doing….

How I came to realise the importance of being over doingWe’ve all been there, you’ve had a really busy couple of weeks at work, you’re exhausted and then someone says something that upsets you, frustrates you or just gets on your nerves.

You then spend the next 12 hours feeling really distracted and unable to focus on the task at hand – ‘the doing’. Your entire working day gets disrupted because you haven’t taken the time to manage yourself and your emotions properly.

While this can be incredibly frustrating and disheartening, for me it was a real eye opener. I was feeling the pressure at work. It was busy, I was tired and then one small decision didn’t go the way that I had expected. The decision wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t what I wanted to hear. It would create a significant amount of work and it took me by surprise. I felt my heart rate increase, my hands started to shake and I could feel the anxiety surging through my body. My breathing rate increased, it was erratic and my head went fuzzy. I could not concentrate on what was being said. My mind would not focus on the here and now, instead I sat there holding back the tears.

At that very moment, the way I was being was drastically affecting what I was doing!

I got through the meeting but I had no clue what anyone had said to me. I was completely distracted and my entire working day was disrupted. By the end of the day I was still sat there feeling sorry for myself and wasting valuable time.

The next day, over my morning coffee, everything changed. It was as if someone had flicked a switch in my brain and everything became clearer. I realised that I was actually in charge of how I was being and only I could change it.

I said to myself ‘let it go’. It didn’t take me long to shift from total chaos to complete coherence (forgive the pun). I took myself out of the situation physically and mentally. I sat still, closed my eyes and just let myself breathe. It felt as though a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I was able to focus and be productive.

Four or five months passed. I managed to complete the extra project alongside my usual workload, but more than that, my team and manager noticed the change in me. As a result, I was given more responsibility and bigger projects, but most importantly the piece of work that had caused this chaos in the first place became enjoyable and, in fact, turned out to be one of my greatest achievements.

Now, the way I am being, impacts my doing in a positive way!

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Ceri Stokes

Ceri Stokes is dedicated to helping her clients define what makes the greatest difference in the shortest time frame, to deliver their commercial objectives. Ceri has a first class degree in Human Biology and began her career at a Sunday Times Fast track 100 company. Since joining Complete Coherence she has developed into a coach and facilitator, working with clients in academy, team and individual settings.

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